Okay let's go from the top. The first thing to know about taking charge is to give someone what they want, but make it so that you're the one giving it to them. For instance, if your girl likes restraints, make her stand still while you tie her up. Or if she likes PIV, tell her that she's the one who's going to lube you up before anything happens.
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she likes to be dominated, and i think she likes it kind of rough? and i don't really know how to take charge like that
and she'd teach me, i know she would, but if she has to teach me then she's still in charge and that's not what i'm going for, you know?
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Okay let's go from the top. The first thing to know about taking charge is to give someone what they want, but make it so that you're the one giving it to them. For instance, if your girl likes restraints, make her stand still while you tie her up. Or if she likes PIV, tell her that she's the one who's going to lube you up before anything happens.
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i think i get that. what's piv, though?
i'm sorry if that's a dumb question